Monday, February 20, 2012

just write {friends}

On Tuesdays, I like to link up with Heather and Just Write.

Best friends are the best therapy.  And I have the best friends.

Two best friends, I've had since junior high. Oh the things we have been through in life together.  Now though, our life pathways don't intersect as often as I'd like.  Distance separates me from them, and adulthood, jobs and families too.

But when our lives do intersect, intersections we usually schedule, it's like not a day has passed.  Us, our interactions are the same as they were in junior high, high school and college.  Times when we saw each other almost daily.  Talked on the phone.  Spelled out words and messages to each other on our pagers.

Sometimes when I make a statement or observation about my life, they are quick to remind me that it's always been that way or it's nothing new.  Which centers me once again. To remember that the challenges, the personalities, the ins and outs, nothing is truly new under the sun.  It just manifests in different ways.

There are days I lament their lack of presence in my everyday life.  In ten years of living in our hometown, they in our college town, I wonder why I haven't developed similar friendships.  I've tried.  I've targeted women, thinking "we could be good friends."  But it's just not the same.  I wonder if my friendship-maker is broken.

I hope and pray that my girls have friends like these.  My maid and matron of honor in my wedding.

Every girl should be so lucky.

That's me on the left (Note the awesome puffy bridesmaid sleeves of the mid-90's.)