Saturday, May 9, 2015

some mother's day thoughts

 Mother's Day is tomorrow. My past two mother's days have been spent studying for nursing school finals. I had some time with my family, but we couldn't do much to celebrate the day.

I'm a bit conflicted when it comes to Mother's Day.

I absolutely love being a mom. It's the greatest privilege and blessing in my life. It's truly my dream come true. I couldn't wait to be a mom and it wasn't long after Bean and I were married that I started to think and plan for when we would start our family.

I do think that Mother's Day (and Father's Day) are special and worth celebrating. But at the same time I truly feel that just being a mom is gift enough.

I am conflicted because I have so many friends who long for motherhood and are still waiting for that dream to come true. Mother's Day holds grief and heartbreak and I just hate that.

That being said, I did shamelessly email my husband some helpful hints. This is also the first Mother's Day in two years we've had room in the budget for gifts. I know that Bean loves to get me gifts and since it's been so long since we've been able to do that sort of thing, I gotta help a guy out as to what I'm into these days, right?

But even without gifts the past few years, Mother's Day has been great. Because I am a mother.

I am conflicted for my friends who will avoid social media and church services which inadvertently shine a light on their non-mom status.

I am conflicted for friends who's motherhood looks much different than they ever thought it would.

I am conflicted for those who's moms have already passed from this life and their absence will be strongly felt tomorrow.

I am conflicted for my single mother friends who don't have a husband to help the kids pick out gifts or put the extra touches on the day.

Yet I cannot discount my blessings, the children I have been given and the privilege of being mom.

For those who struggle on Mother's Day, I do not take any of this for granted. I hurt for you, I pray for you. I do not take for granted that I have a children, that my mom is steps away from my front door and that I have a husband who has been running secret errands all day.

I do not take it for granted.

A few Mother's Day reads for you to click to…

Ann Voskamp's poetic writing always enraptures me, Why Mother's Day Really Is For The Birds and The Most Life-giving Thing Any Mother Can do for Themselves This Mother's Day

For the Mothers who never got to hold their babies in their arms, On Celebrating the Other Mothers on Mother's Day.

I've long had a tumultuous relationship with Proverbs 31 and it's use on Mother's Day and Rachel Held Evans sums it up perfectly in this post, 3 Things You Might Not Know About Proverbs 31.

Shauna Niequist's post from a few years ago "What My Mother Taught Me."

How to Not Be Disappointed This Mother's Day